Outrageous Oral, Volume 1: Michael Doughman

Michael Doughman tells his story about coming to Dallas for Outrageous Oral, Volume 1. June 28, 2012 at the Vixen Lounge of Sue Ellen's Nightclub.

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this well

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good evening everyone I am when I was invited to

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to be involved in this project I'm I asked Bruce the Coulomb

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said am I going to die soon in this last year I got to

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legend awards I am

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and then a lifetime achievement you know those usually come right before you go

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so I don't know I just glad I'm gonna make it to the evening I hope

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George is with Jack and

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he's been with him night and day except for Thursday the for two hours because

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it was sale at Barneys and he said I'll be right back

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I came to Dallas in 1980

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and it was an amazing year to come here I right in the middle the biggest ice

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storm in the history of the city

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it took three and a half days for me to get from El Paso to Dallas

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on ice-covered roads and thence three-and-a-half for four months later

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we went into the hottest in long as summer in the history of Dallas

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so my first year was quite eye-opening I am

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I really wasn't very active the first two or three years I was just busy

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getting acclimated and I'm

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socializing a lot and cleaned up a lot of this

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so you can take that for whatever you know

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but in the eighties we did socialize a lot

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oh my my my my

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and about 1983

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at the end baby three early 84 the Turtle Creek chorale was one of the

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first

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large group organizations and that was

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a given the HIV test and we were at our summary treated

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and they paired us up in partners who was serb like for moral support and

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John Thomson I were partnered together in went into the room we did the blood

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test and we sat there and then they came out and they give you a number and they

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tell you to call in like two weeks

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an hour and those were an excruciating two weeks and then I got the phone call

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and of course

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you note thinking back on my life as a have got to be positive

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there's no way possible that I can be and sure enough I was

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and so they sent me to a recommended doctor

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and at some

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I believe it was at Medical City I do remember the experience because I went

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in for my appointment

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and he wouldn't shake my hand and so he talked to me

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and before we left he said you know i really suggest that you

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get your affairs in order and I only telling you this because I was reading

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The Dallas Morning News Online last month and noticed that

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he died and

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I'm still here the matter fact I've had several affairs that I've gotten in

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order since I talked to him so

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its all been good for me

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our the city literally changed my life because some

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I came from a whole different world a

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a las vegas where was there really wasn't any kind community

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it was it was just a business town it was run by mobsters back in those days

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and I'm

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I was part of the entertainment community so when I came to Dallas

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am after all of that

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part of my life was over decided I want to do something else

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I am from the very beginning it was the people

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in this city that amaze me arm

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and one in my first discoveries and the reason that

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the topic they really want to talk on was I'm

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my faith through all this and

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it really is what's got me here to where I am today

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on you know and I think that whatever you believe in

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or whoever or whatever it might be

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I think that there is something greater than all of us

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that sorta guides is and it's got me through all the years her

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difficult times and a brought a lot of joy to my life

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and I discovered at the very first

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in 1983 going to MCC it reagan & Brown

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and hearing revonda eastman preach and

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changed my life in one afternoon I had never heard anyone

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speak I make came from the Midwest and I was raised

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methodist which my grandmother used to call a denture christian because there

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is really no bite to this

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to the the ology

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and so we were there was really a I i'd never

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paste any kind of controversy or anything I had never experienced

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the the baptist experience until I came to Texas

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and then I discovered that we weren't popular at all

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and at least for some folks and then I found the MCC church

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and it was at the time the only thing

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have really for an openly gay lesbian

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or gay man or anybody else transgender bisexual

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I it was the only really open and welcoming church

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that you know that spoke you know positively and

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love was the message and a not damnation and all those other things

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so I I found a home there very quickly

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i join the choir I sang with the choir per longest time

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when Don left to become an elder

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the MCC church and michael piazza came along

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we started one of the first things was ache capital campaign we knew that we

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were outgrowing their little space and we needed to move along

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a wanna my dear friends from all those years is sitting right there reverend

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Carol west to who was

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also on the staff member CC

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we've had many a venture together her and I and Angeles

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so have about I don't know about the second year

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well the first year before actually before Michael came

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I offered to do a little fundraiser that we ended up calling that's what friends

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are for

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and I went around the community in gathered up some on my friends that I

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knew that were

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talented in could sing or entertained

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arm and we put together a little review show

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and we had it in the social hall at MCC

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and from that personal and we ended up having

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14 more and for fourteen years of a non we did that's what friends are for all

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through the pink building

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and all the way into the building that now is

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you CC cathedral pope so

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up we watched that growth but the part that amaze me

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was that when I started the church

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and I believe our membership roll out cuz I got my first newsletter as a new

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member

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membership /url was like 285 members

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at the little church on reagan brown and you think about where it is now but the

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thing that really is remarkable is

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it was the only space at the time but now because the church is like

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huh Saint Thomas and North Haven

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and Oaklawn I United Methodist in all of these other churches

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that now open their doors and become more welcoming in a spirituality and the

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LGBT community

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have a much much greater presence in this city then

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we ever had before there are options

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depending on down that level up your paid

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Carol West has and wonderful wonderful Church in Fort Worth that is doing

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tremendous there are actually in a capital campaign I believe to

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to buy their building and to expand so

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I'll congratulations for that and she is still in the pulpit preaching the

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message God's love to everyone and I thank her for that

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I am as I went through the years and

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you know I've went to church on Sundays and course you know Friday and Saturday

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night I was at the roundup

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and you know there were

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days back man when there were may be lost nights at the

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the club as you know I had a very interesting and Paul colorful life back

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then

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but the thing that never changed in your that was in every place that I went

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where there was a bar

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restaurant or the church or

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for a conference or anything among our community the people have Dallas

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have been the one shining example we host a annual international press tour

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here now the Dallas have revealed sponsors every year we bring travel

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writers from all over the world

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from all major LGBT publications

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to come spend a week with us here in Dallas and then go home and write about

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us

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and it is unanimously arm

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you know we don't have a big lake we don't have mountains we don't have a ski

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resort

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we don't have a big amusement park but we have the most amazing people in this

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city

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and the thing that they talk about and write about is the hospitality here

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and the unity here the way our city

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works together in bonds together when the Haab crisis became

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really a crisis we were wanna

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so unique in the fact that our women's community

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was the people they were the people who stepped forward and took care of the man

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in this city

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who needed to help and needed daily care

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they stayed with them they put them in their homes they fed them

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out when there were when there were no alternatives before there was any kind

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options before we had in Oak Lawn Community Services

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or Resource Center at Dallas so I think that that period

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started the bond between our community because we are closer

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as men and women here the most any other large LGBT community

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in the country you don't find this kinda bond in san Francisco's meet gay and

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lesbian community or in New York or in Chicago or anywhere else but

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here arm we do think about each other we include each other

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we have wonderful places purse to socialize

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like this beautiful club here I'll our entertainment industry

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our leadership is absolutely loaded with women in leadership we have some very

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strong

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very bright and very powerful women who lead our community here not just in the

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LGBT community

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been mainstream in corporate America so I think that

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in retrospective for everything that I have experienced

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dust bar and I'm I hoped I'm not done yet

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there's a parade coming in a few months and I've got to get that organize real

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quick

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now so this will be my 11th year with the Dallas tavern yield

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has their executive director and a next year in 2013 we will celebrate the 30th

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anniversary the Alan Ross Texas freedom parade

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so we're very proud of that

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the people in our community that have I am

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taken that project from when it was

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literally just a arm a pull together by a few friends there were a couple love

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up difficult and struggled the temps

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have a Pride celebration I am in the

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late seventies and 1980

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and it just never really came together and when they came to the Dallas tavern

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killed in this was before I was ever involved

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you know they took upon their shoulders and Alan Ross himself

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who was a very busy man because if you knew Alan and if you knew anything about

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him

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any Wednesday up the year he was at the City Council

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meeting seeded in those chairs and if there was an issue at all

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alan was there to raise his hand and speak against it

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he fought for seven years to get us a memorial in Lee Park

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and which stands to this day they hadn't

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they are moving actually the plaque and worry we're replanting in his memory the

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tree that

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that Alan originally planted got some sort of disease and

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they took it down last year but this year the tapping yield inmate

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commemorate chin

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up his up the 10th anniversary up

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are the 20th anniversary of when we named it the Alan Ross freedom parade

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I we are planning a new tree and we're moving the Morial

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up to the the stone reflecting part about Lee Park

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but it is still the official home up

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at the Allan Ross and the AIDS Memorial so we're very proud of all the work he

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did there

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on the years that he spent getting the Pride Parade

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organized and he and Paul Lewis Inc at the jack

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three people organize that entire

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madness and I don't know how they did it because I have a steering committee of

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20

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and about a hundred and fifty volunteers to make it what it is today but

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um they did an amazing job their pain years before us

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now we're just still glad that a lot of them are still here

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arm so many the heroes that are not here tonight

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but it this is a great opportunity to recall them and remember them

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and so I hope that when I your turn comes

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to share your history you know that that you'll be

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right there to step forward and do your part we're doing the hard part now

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because we're trying to recall

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import together in some sort of organized fashion the past 25 or 30

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years of our community

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and how we came to be who we are today but once we do get that down and believe

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me this group will get it done

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and we will have a solid and reliable history with recognition up all the

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proper people

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it will then be up to the younger people in this room and the next generation to

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maintain that

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so that we don't go through this again and so remember your responsibility and

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remember

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that us as people are what make Dallas the great city that is

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thank you very much