Outrageous Oral, Volume 1: Michael Doughman

Michael Doughman tells his story about coming to Dallas for Outrageous Oral, Volume 1. June 28, 2012 at the Vixen Lounge of Sue Ellen's Nightclub.

Transcript 0:00 this well 0:04 good evening everyone I am when I was invited to 0:09 to be involved in this project I'm I asked Bruce the Coulomb 0:15 said am I going to die soon in this last year I got to 0:21 legend awards I am 0:25 and then a lifetime achievement you know those usually come right before you go 0:29 so I don't know I just glad I'm gonna make it to the evening I hope 0:34 George is with Jack and 0:37 he's been with him night and day except for Thursday the for two hours because 0:41 it was sale at Barneys and he said I'll be right back 0:44 I came to Dallas in 1980 0:48 and it was an amazing year to come here I right in the middle the biggest ice 0:53 storm in the history of the city 0:55 it took three and a half days for me to get from El Paso to Dallas 0:59 on ice-covered roads and thence three-and-a-half for four months later 1:03 we went into the hottest in long as summer in the history of Dallas 1:07 so my first year was quite eye-opening I am 1:12 I really wasn't very active the first two or three years I was just busy 1:16 getting acclimated and I'm 1:19 socializing a lot and cleaned up a lot of this 1:23 so you can take that for whatever you know 1:27 but in the eighties we did socialize a lot 1:30 oh my my my my 1:34 and about 1983 1:38 at the end baby three early 84 the Turtle Creek chorale was one of the 1:43 first 1:43 large group organizations and that was 1:48 a given the HIV test and we were at our summary treated 1:54 and they paired us up in partners who was serb like for moral support and 1:58 John Thomson I were partnered together in went into the room we did the blood 2:03 test and we sat there and then they came out and they give you a number and they 2:06 tell you to call in like two weeks 2:08 an hour and those were an excruciating two weeks and then I got the phone call 2:13 and of course 2:14 you note thinking back on my life as a have got to be positive 2:19 there's no way possible that I can be and sure enough I was 2:23 and so they sent me to a recommended doctor 2:26 and at some 2:29 I believe it was at Medical City I do remember the experience because I went 2:35 in for my appointment 2:37 and he wouldn't shake my hand and so he talked to me 2:42 and before we left he said you know i really suggest that you 2:46 get your affairs in order and I only telling you this because I was reading 2:51 The Dallas Morning News Online last month and noticed that 2:55 he died and 3:00 I'm still here the matter fact I've had several affairs that I've gotten in 3:10 order since I talked to him so 3:12 its all been good for me 3:15 our the city literally changed my life because some 3:21 I came from a whole different world a 3:25 a las vegas where was there really wasn't any kind community 3:31 it was it was just a business town it was run by mobsters back in those days 3:35 and I'm 3:36 I was part of the entertainment community so when I came to Dallas 3:40 am after all of that 3:43 part of my life was over decided I want to do something else 3:46 I am from the very beginning it was the people 3:51 in this city that amaze me arm 3:54 and one in my first discoveries and the reason that 3:57 the topic they really want to talk on was I'm 4:01 my faith through all this and 4:04 it really is what's got me here to where I am today 4:08 on you know and I think that whatever you believe in 4:11 or whoever or whatever it might be 4:14 I think that there is something greater than all of us 4:17 that sorta guides is and it's got me through all the years her 4:22 difficult times and a brought a lot of joy to my life 4:26 and I discovered at the very first 4:29 in 1983 going to MCC it reagan & Brown 4:34 and hearing revonda eastman preach and 4:37 changed my life in one afternoon I had never heard anyone 4:42 speak I make came from the Midwest and I was raised 4:46 methodist which my grandmother used to call a denture christian because there 4:51 is really no bite to this 4:53 to the the ology 4:57 and so we were there was really a I i'd never 5:01 paste any kind of controversy or anything I had never experienced 5:05 the the baptist experience until I came to Texas 5:10 and then I discovered that we weren't popular at all 5:14 and at least for some folks and then I found the MCC church 5:18 and it was at the time the only thing 5:22 have really for an openly gay lesbian 5:26 or gay man or anybody else transgender bisexual 5:31 I it was the only really open and welcoming church 5:35 that you know that spoke you know positively and 5:38 love was the message and a not damnation and all those other things 5:42 so I I found a home there very quickly 5:46 i join the choir I sang with the choir per longest time 5:50 when Don left to become an elder 5:53 the MCC church and michael piazza came along 5:58 we started one of the first things was ache capital campaign we knew that we 6:02 were outgrowing their little space and we needed to move along 6:06 a wanna my dear friends from all those years is sitting right there reverend 6:10 Carol west to who was 6:12 also on the staff member CC 6:17 we've had many a venture together her and I and Angeles 6:21 so have about I don't know about the second year 6:26 well the first year before actually before Michael came 6:29 I offered to do a little fundraiser that we ended up calling that's what friends 6:34 are for 6:35 and I went around the community in gathered up some on my friends that I 6:39 knew that were 6:40 talented in could sing or entertained 6:44 arm and we put together a little review show 6:47 and we had it in the social hall at MCC 6:50 and from that personal and we ended up having 6:53 14 more and for fourteen years of a non we did that's what friends are for all 6:59 through the pink building 7:01 and all the way into the building that now is 7:04 you CC cathedral pope so 7:07 up we watched that growth but the part that amaze me 7:11 was that when I started the church 7:14 and I believe our membership roll out cuz I got my first newsletter as a new 7:18 member 7:19 membership /url was like 285 members 7:24 at the little church on reagan brown and you think about where it is now but the 7:28 thing that really is remarkable is 7:30 it was the only space at the time but now because the church is like 7:36 huh Saint Thomas and North Haven 7:39 and Oaklawn I United Methodist in all of these other churches 7:44 that now open their doors and become more welcoming in a spirituality and the 7:49 LGBT community 7:50 have a much much greater presence in this city then 7:53 we ever had before there are options 7:57 depending on down that level up your paid 8:00 Carol West has and wonderful wonderful Church in Fort Worth that is doing 8:04 tremendous there are actually in a capital campaign I believe to 8:07 to buy their building and to expand so 8:11 I'll congratulations for that and she is still in the pulpit preaching the 8:15 message God's love to everyone and I thank her for that 8:19 I am as I went through the years and 8:23 you know I've went to church on Sundays and course you know Friday and Saturday 8:27 night I was at the roundup 8:29 and you know there were 8:32 days back man when there were may be lost nights at the 8:36 the club as you know I had a very interesting and Paul colorful life back 8:40 then 8:41 but the thing that never changed in your that was in every place that I went 8:46 where there was a bar 8:47 restaurant or the church or 8:50 for a conference or anything among our community the people have Dallas 8:55 have been the one shining example we host a annual international press tour 9:00 here now the Dallas have revealed sponsors every year we bring travel 9:04 writers from all over the world 9:06 from all major LGBT publications 9:09 to come spend a week with us here in Dallas and then go home and write about 9:12 us 9:13 and it is unanimously arm 9:17 you know we don't have a big lake we don't have mountains we don't have a ski 9:21 resort 9:22 we don't have a big amusement park but we have the most amazing people in this 9:26 city 9:27 and the thing that they talk about and write about is the hospitality here 9:32 and the unity here the way our city 9:35 works together in bonds together when the Haab crisis became 9:39 really a crisis we were wanna 9:43 so unique in the fact that our women's community 9:47 was the people they were the people who stepped forward and took care of the man 9:51 in this city 9:53 who needed to help and needed daily care 9:57 they stayed with them they put them in their homes they fed them 10:01 out when there were when there were no alternatives before there was any kind 10:05 options before we had in Oak Lawn Community Services 10:08 or Resource Center at Dallas so I think that that period 10:13 started the bond between our community because we are closer 10:17 as men and women here the most any other large LGBT community 10:22 in the country you don't find this kinda bond in san Francisco's meet gay and 10:26 lesbian community or in New York or in Chicago or anywhere else but 10:31 here arm we do think about each other we include each other 10:35 we have wonderful places purse to socialize 10:39 like this beautiful club here I'll our entertainment industry 10:44 our leadership is absolutely loaded with women in leadership we have some very 10:50 strong 10:51 very bright and very powerful women who lead our community here not just in the 10:55 LGBT community 10:56 been mainstream in corporate America so I think that 11:00 in retrospective for everything that I have experienced 11:04 dust bar and I'm I hoped I'm not done yet 11:09 there's a parade coming in a few months and I've got to get that organize real 11:12 quick 11:12 now so this will be my 11th year with the Dallas tavern yield 11:18 has their executive director and a next year in 2013 we will celebrate the 30th 11:24 anniversary the Alan Ross Texas freedom parade 11:28 so we're very proud of that 11:32 the people in our community that have I am 11:36 taken that project from when it was 11:41 literally just a arm a pull together by a few friends there were a couple love 11:46 up difficult and struggled the temps 11:49 have a Pride celebration I am in the 11:53 late seventies and 1980 11:56 and it just never really came together and when they came to the Dallas tavern 12:00 killed in this was before I was ever involved 12:03 you know they took upon their shoulders and Alan Ross himself 12:08 who was a very busy man because if you knew Alan and if you knew anything about 12:11 him 12:12 any Wednesday up the year he was at the City Council 12:17 meeting seeded in those chairs and if there was an issue at all 12:21 alan was there to raise his hand and speak against it 12:25 he fought for seven years to get us a memorial in Lee Park 12:30 and which stands to this day they hadn't 12:33 they are moving actually the plaque and worry we're replanting in his memory the 12:38 tree that 12:39 that Alan originally planted got some sort of disease and 12:43 they took it down last year but this year the tapping yield inmate 12:48 commemorate chin 12:49 up his up the 10th anniversary up 12:52 are the 20th anniversary of when we named it the Alan Ross freedom parade 12:56 I we are planning a new tree and we're moving the Morial 12:59 up to the the stone reflecting part about Lee Park 13:03 but it is still the official home up 13:06 at the Allan Ross and the AIDS Memorial so we're very proud of all the work he 13:10 did there 13:11 on the years that he spent getting the Pride Parade 13:14 organized and he and Paul Lewis Inc at the jack 13:18 three people organize that entire 13:22 madness and I don't know how they did it because I have a steering committee of 13:26 20 13:26 and about a hundred and fifty volunteers to make it what it is today but 13:31 um they did an amazing job their pain years before us 13:36 now we're just still glad that a lot of them are still here 13:39 arm so many the heroes that are not here tonight 13:43 but it this is a great opportunity to recall them and remember them 13:48 and so I hope that when I your turn comes 13:51 to share your history you know that that you'll be 13:56 right there to step forward and do your part we're doing the hard part now 13:59 because we're trying to recall 14:02 import together in some sort of organized fashion the past 25 or 30 14:06 years of our community 14:07 and how we came to be who we are today but once we do get that down and believe 14:12 me this group will get it done 14:14 and we will have a solid and reliable history with recognition up all the 14:18 proper people 14:20 it will then be up to the younger people in this room and the next generation to 14:24 maintain that 14:25 so that we don't go through this again and so remember your responsibility and 14:30 remember 14:31 that us as people are what make Dallas the great city that is 14:36 thank you very much